Saturday, May 16, 2009

No thanks, I'm taken.

I have a dilemma for you. So, I'm going out of town for a wedding. This morning after I checked in, I wanted to grab a bite to eat. The first restaurant I stopped in didn’t have any fresh fruit (I didn’t want a muffin or a fatty breakfast sandwich because I am having MAJOR weight issues, which we will discuss very soon) so I asked the employees where I could find something lighter. They suggested another restaurant and an airport employee, who was in line in front of me, volunteered to show me where the other restaurant was. I thanked him and told him it wasn’t necessary for him to show me the way. He replied that he was going that way anyway.

We engaged in a little small talk on the way to the restaurant. When we got there, I ordered two bananas. The guy quickly ordered right after me and instructed the cashier to put everything on one tab. It all happened very quickly and I was caught by surprise. I thanked him for his kindness but insisted on paying for my own, however he and the cashier were quicker on the draw than me. The order was rung up and paid for before I could start rummaging in my purse.

I thanked him again and as we began walking in the same direction; me towards the security line and him, I don’t know, we chatted. The he did it. He asked me if I had a ‘boyfriend or anything’.

I answered that I had a husband. The guy was obviously surprised and he said, “Wow. Your husband is a lucky man to get someone like you. You have a beautiful smile.” I rewarded him for his astuteness with a mega watt version of said ‘beautiful smile’ and he went on his way as I got in the long, winding security line.

As I walked fifty paces in one direction, turned and walked fifty paces in the other direction, I started thinking about the situation and wondered if I mishandled it. Should I have insisted on paying him back for the bananas? Was it inappropriate for me, a married woman to accept two bananas from a strange man? Did I mislead him in anyway? If so, what are the rules?

What do you think? I kind of feel like maybe I shouldn’t have allowed him to pay for my food just to turn around and dash his hopes, but I’m not sure at what point I should have done something different. I’d love to hear what you think.


  1. I think you did fine, you were polite, you offered to pay, you were honest, forthright, and kind. You get an A+++.
    Your hubby is lucky, Sapphire, that is so true.

  2. I vote - take it as a compliment and enjoy the bananas.

    If it was something more expensive I might have a different answer.

    You didn't misled him if you answered the question when he asked. And it doesn't sound like you were flirting and you didn't ask him to walk you to the restaurant.

    Apparently, you're just one hot mama!

    (Just curious - were you wearing a ring? If so, then it's totally his bad for not looking at the left hand.)

  3. oh you are a naughty one, arent you? LOL j/k you did fine!

  4. Take it as a compliment for sure :)

  5. I agree with K--take it as a compliment! It doesn't sound at all as if there was anything else you should have done.

  6. I think you handled it just fine. You offered to pay, and you answered his questions honestly. You weren't flirting or trying to hide anything, so you're all clear in my book.

  7. Hey married girls can let someone to buy us a... banana or two once in a while. He seemed like a nice guy and you were a perfect lady. He''ll be rewarded for his gentleman behavior later by a nice available woman. Meanwhile, you can walk away feeling like you still have it.